Recently my associate pastor Mike and I went to play golf. We were playing by ourselves so the Marshall added a single to our party. I always welcome people to play along because it usually gives me an opportunity to share my faith some time during the round. The guy who was playing with us was from New York and we struck up a conversation immediately. I found out that he used to work in the high tech industry, his wife died a few months ago, and he is semi-retired. We also heard every profanity known to man and in some unique combinations. If you have gotten to know me for any time you know that I never have or will act holier than thou when people who aren’t believers act like it.
About the 16th hole he realized that we were pastors and all of a sudden his language changed. He started saying “darn” and “dang” instead of the choice words he was using earlier. Then he told us that playing with him helped his game.
Not too long ago I walked out to take the garbage to our trash can in back yard. I noticed that half our neighborhood was a one our neighbors having a cookout. One of the guys said “hey Kev” and I said hello back and went back into our house. Within five minutes the person who was having the party knocked on our door to invite us to the party. Now this was a birthday party. We had no gifts, we were eating dinner and we weren’t dressed to go to a party. Had we been invited at the same time everyone else was we would have gone. In all honesty I don’t believe they wanted to invite us because I’m a pastor. Every party we go to in our neighborhood we are ignored by many but not all. We don’t drink but we never make a big deal about it. I’ve never said “NO! THAT IS A SIN!” I usually just say no thank you. I think it is easier to “party” when we aren’t around.
Why is it like this? We aren’t judgmental. We don’t make comments about people’s language or the beverages they are drinking? Why is it people think they have to act differently around ministers? Why would someone feel guilty around me? What makes this happen? Is it a Holy Spirit conviction and having me around reminds them of that? Just wondering?
What do you think?


