Can you be a “life coach” when you can’t coach your own?

30 11 2007

[Christian Post]

When life coach and televangelist Paula White went into her marriage 18 years ago, she thought she’d end her life with her husband, Randy. Divorce was not anything she ever wanted to happen, she recently said. Now separated from Randy and continuing her own ministry, White has found herself in the midst of a wide debate as more evangelicals show acceptance of divorce.

“The fact is as many have been critical or judgmental [about the divorce] … I’ve also found thousands that have reached out to me in a way that maybe they never did,” said White in a live interview Monday with CNN’s Larry King.

The famed pentecostal preacher’s divorce announcement in August compounded with the divorce case of another power couple – televangelist Juanita Bynum and Bishop Thomas Weeks III – that same week fueled discussions on whether Scripture allows the separation of marriage partners as both couples received support.

“I think conservative Christians are becoming more liberalized in the sense of, I guess, making more room for the acceptance of divorce and remarriage,” said Mark Galli, Christianity Today magazine’s managing editor, according to Religion News Service. “You’ll see a lot of churches that plunge right in and have divorce ministries. … Marriage is a really difficult thing in our culture right now.”

Meanwhile, theological conservative John Piper called the widening grounds of legitimate divorce “tragic.”

Both Paula White and Bynum continue to have a strong following even after their highly public divorces. White has out a new book, You’re All That!, and Bynum said she believes her experience may broaden her ability to reach people.

Read about it here.

[From me]

How can we as believers talk about family values when ministry and career seem to be valued more than the family?  I agree with John Piper.  This is tragic.  Marriage isn’t a high school steady that you break up with and move on.  God can and does use people who have experienced divorce.  But it is not His ideal.  Divorce happens to fine people and many never wanted it. But shouldn’t people regardless if they are in ministry or not be doing whatever it takes to save their family instead of making statements like it has broadened my ministry?

Our priorities should be God, family, and ministry in that order.  But too often people confuse ministry with their personal relationship with God. It is a sad day for God’s Church when the divorce rate among believers is the same as those outside the faith.

What do you think?





Mom may lose custody of child because of her faith…

10 10 2007

[Daily Times]

A Maryville woman who went to court on Aug. 14 for a child custody hearing says she was persecuted because of her religious beliefs at the hands of the Blount County judicial system.

According to Jo Anne White, what was supposed to be a standard child custody hearing turned into an almost hourlong “Bible study” in the courtroom in spite of the repeated protests of her attorney, Kevin W. Shepherd.

After a detailed discussion of her religious beliefs — documented in court reporter transcripts obtained by The Daily Times — and a brief recess to chambers, Blount County Circuit Court Judge W. Dale Young awarded temporary custody of White’s two children to her ex-husband. The custody will be reviewed again in Circuit Court on Dec. 11.

Read about it here.

[From me]

What happened to separation of church and state?

What do you think?





Divorce among believers becoming more acceptable?

9 10 2007

[Christian Post]

The media light has fallen upon famed Pentecostal preachers and their less than perfect lives, which, to many, has come as a shock.

National evangelist or prophetess Juanita Bynum, 48, was granted a restraining order last week after filing for divorce from her husband, Bishop Thomas W. Weeks III, alleging that he beat her at an Atlanta hotel parking lot in August.

The Weeks’ divorce come just as another renowned Pentecostal duo, Randy and Paula White of Without Walls International in Tampa, Fla., announced their plans for divorce. In this case, the split is amicable and they blamed it on the two different ministerial directions their lives were going. Both have been married and divorced before.

“Divorce, once a taboo in evangelical culture, is now a fact of life,” writes David Van Biema in Time magazine.

A poll by Newsweek showed that the divorce rate among pastors is 50 percent, no different from that of the general public.

Read about it here.

[From me]

Divorce is tough and many people have no desire to get a divorce but their partner leaves them. We should be sensitive to those people.

But to me many divorces like those mentioned above remind me of teenagers breaking up with their steady’s in high school. Marriage is not something to take lightly. What is wrong with our faith if the divorce rate among believers is the same as non-believers?

What do you think?





What’s the deal?

26 08 2007

I kept noticing a lot of traffic in the last few days from people going to a story I wrote about Evangelist Paula White. I couldn’t figure out why until I found out that this week she and her husband Randy filed for divorce.

Read about it here.

Through personal challenges (Randy’s 29-year-old daughter reportedly was diagnosed with a mature brain tumor) and their callings taking them in obtuse directions (Paula, an evangelist, conference host, T.V. host and author is away frequently), the glue in their marriage dissolved.

Every time one of these high profile marriages falter it always bothers me. My wife always reminds me that it is hard to keep a marriage going when the couple is apart. I hate to hear about anyone’s marriage falling apart. This is sad.

What do you think?





What happened to my Brady Bunch world?

13 04 2007

I was a blessed child–I know that. I lived I guess in a fantasy world. My parents have been married to each other for over 45 years. They are still serving God in fact their ministry is probably stronger today than it ever has been. In fact last week they did a marriage seminar in Virginia and 23 people made decisions to follow Christ. Over 50 couples recommitted their marriages.

When I was growing up in Tuscaloosa, AL in the 1970′s all of my friends liked coming over to my house. We weren’t rich in terms of money by any means but we were rich in love. I don’t mean that to sound corny but it is true. Many of my friends lived in highly dysfunctional homes and coming over to our house was a safe harbor. Many of my friends referred to my mom and dad as Mama Bussey and Papa Bussey.

I never realized how blessed I was. My father came from a highly dysfunctional home. His dad was an alcoholic. I found out recently that my mom’s family was not what I had grown up to believe. It is amazing that we grew up in a “Brady Bunch” world.

I didn’t really start understanding dysfunction until I got married. My wife grew up in a single parent home. Her dad was an alcoholic and lets just say she grew up in a verbally abusive home. Don’t ever think that children just get over the pain of their childhood. I don’t think it ever goes away.

In my ministry I encounter dysfunction on a regular basis. I think my life was the exception rather than the rule. I have been reading books and conversing with people in recent months that give me a picture of childhood I could never imagine.

What happened to my Brady Bunch world?

I really don’t think it ever existed. I was just blessed. But why me? Why didn’t I encounter the pain that Cassandra and my friends did? Why was I spared the pain of divorce? Why was I not abused? I realize I was blessed and I am thankful But when I hear stories of pain and heartache I don’t know what to day. It is sobering. It is disheartening. It is discouraging. But it is life!

I don’t think it is the way God planned it. I think it all went downhill in the Garden of Eden. But I also think it can be better. I know it was for me. There is hope. I believe God wants us to strive for more. I don’t have all of the answers. In fact I have a lot of questions.

What do you think?





Divorcing man chainsaws house in two

10 03 2007

[From Yahoo News]

A 43-year-old German decided to settle his imminent divorce by chainsawing a family home in two and making off with his half in a forklift truck.

After finishing the job, the man picked up his half with the forklift truck and drove to his brother’s house where he has since been staying.

Read about it here.

[From me]

German Engineering? :)








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