I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t have all or for that matter many answers to the issue of sexual predators in churches. I do think that our children are too important to just say that every church must fend for themselves. We must work together.
But what about those who may be falsely accused? That issue has been raised and I realize it is a very touchy subject. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be on a person and their family to be accused of something they didn’t do.
I received an e-mail from someone I don’t know and lives nowhere near me. They wanted to tell their story but they don’t want to be dragged though the mud and especially their family. I have received several e-mails this week from people who have been abused and now one who was accused wrongly. All of the stories break my heart.
The person who was wrongly accused gave me permission to share their story to give another point of view. I left out parts and reworded it to protect them. Here it is:
This person has been investigated numerous times for Child abuse. Each Report has been thoroughly investigated, and it was concluded in every case they were false reports. Over a period of time his home was searched and his family have been to see DHS, and the police. The police know him and his family and realize they are being victimized. The law says someone can be arrested for repeatedly making a false report but the false reports change a little each time which keeps them from being arrested.
I can’t reveal who set him up but there are other issues he shared which can not be posted here to protect him and his family. Lets just say it is painful. There are many other complex issues that have arisen. It has caused a strain on his family and his wife. Read what he said:.
“I understand your furor over these creeps who have legitimately done wrong and admitted to it, or it was proven…..but this could get huge and horrible. Someone needs to remember Americans are innocent until proven guilty…. “
As I read his e-mail I realized this is more complex than just lists and such. I’ve never claimed to be an expert. But I do hurt for those who have been abused as well as those who have been falsely accused. I don’t know what the answer is but I have a lot of questions.
What do you think?